Not Ready to Make Nice

I have been taking steps to finally get over the major hurt I feel after being raped.  After many months of arguing with myself I chose to tell my rapists wife that he did in fact rape me hoping that if he has not changed she could protect her children from him.  

He is now telling the people around him that I am a drug addict and that I am spewing falsities about him.  

I have been really stressed today and to make it worse I saw him today.  

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  1. This comment has been deleted
    1. proudmomma8

      Thank you antoni, it is alright though I went to support groups online and helped other people and attended a bereavement meeting and feel much better. I am thinking of starting a support group for rape survivors around here, I live in the country so everything is at least a half hour away.

      November 12, 2013
  2. bo989

    How did the wife react

    November 12, 2013
    1. proudmomma8

      she sent me a message saying leave me alone, she believed him. Hopefully he will never do it to his daughter.

      November 12, 2013
  3. bo989

    Sorry about your ordeal what ever happened?

    November 12, 2013
    1. proudmomma8

      Hopefully people will wake up before someone else gets hurt. I have to work hard to try and forgive, so that he no longer has the power to hurt me again. Thank you Bo

      November 12, 2013
      1. proudmomma8

        I sent his wife a message on facebook, telling her that I could not be silent anymore because if something happened to her daughter I would not be able to live with myself. I told her what happened…
        She sent me a message in return saying, “leave me alone” and he started rumors that I am a druggie.
        Needless to say, since he was in charge of tee ball this year, the boys are not playing, it is sad but my husband wants nothing to do with him.

        May 31, 2014
  4. tabbyjo2011

    I am sorry for what happened to you doll. In time he will get what he deserves. You are so strong! I admire that about you.

    November 13, 2013
    1. proudmomma8

      Thank you Tabbyjo

      November 13, 2013
  5. Twisted_Angel

    I am truely sorry for what you’ve had to endure. But you are a very brave and strong person to have stepped up and done what you did! Always remember, Fear can either hinder you or make you stronger, the choice is up to you!

    January 02, 2014
    1. proudmomma8

      Thank you Twisted Angel

      January 02, 2014
    2. proudmomma8

      I sent his wife a message on facebook, telling her that I could not be silent anymore because if something happened to her daughter I would not be able to live with myself. I told her what happened…
      She sent me a message in return saying, “leave me alone” and he started rumors that I am a druggie.
      Needless to say, since he was in charge of tee ball this year, the boys are not playing, it is sad but my husband wants nothing to do with him.

      May 31, 2014
  6. mylifemystory12

    I’m so sorry to hear about this, but it takes a lot of strength and courage to not only talk about it, but confront the wife of this guy. This guy will get what he deserves, and it will only make you that much more stronger!

    January 03, 2014
    1. proudmomma8

      Thank you.

      January 03, 2014
      1. proudmomma8

        I sent his wife a message on facebook, telling her that I could not be silent anymore because if something happened to her daughter I would not be able to live with myself. I told her what happened…
        She sent me a message in return saying, “leave me alone” and he started rumors that I am a druggie.
        Needless to say, since he was in charge of tee ball this year, the boys are not playing, it is sad but my husband wants nothing to do with him.

        May 31, 2014